We all long for unity in our families, friendships and workplaces. Without it our lives are fragmented; with it we live in harmony and peace. Being individualistic and wanting to be exclusive doesn’t foster unity, neither does expecting everyone to think and behave like we do. Fear, suspicion, selfishness and greed destroy unity and ultimately destroy relationships. Fear that someone else is better than we are or is getting more or will take away what we have. These feelings arise from a basic insecurity that we don’t matter to anyone that we need to look out for ourselves first that we are the only ones who deserve good things. The opposite of these negative qualities is trust. Trust builds unity. Trust in those we live or work with. Trust that the other person’s motives are as honorable as ours, that someone will stand up for us just as we do for others and that w matter to other people just as they matter to us.